Sorority Life – Initiation

The thing that makes each sorority different from the next is our ritual. It’s the secrets that bind us together. Sadly in this day and age you can find lots of things online about the ritual of various sororities; it makes me sad that people put this information out there.

Anyways….the chapter I’m advising has Initiation this weekend. This is when our new members, we call them Alphas, become sisters, we call them Deltas. (As a note: when you graduate you become a Pi, so Alpha Delta Pi). It’s a few days of just sisterhood. It’s a time to go deeper in your relationships with your sisters and bring our new members into the sisterhood. It’s all very exciting!

My initiation was May 2005…wow I can’t believe it was almost 10 years ago! I’ll be honest, I don’t remember a ton about my own initiation. As a new member you aren’t sure what the course of events are going to be and it goes by quickly. But as a Delta it is so awesome being a part of bringing the new members into our sisterhood. I always loved bringing my little Diamond Sisters through initiation. Bringing more women into our sisterhood and sharing everything that I love about my sorority was an exciting thing for me.

Ashlei and I hanging out on our bench! No other sorority has a landmark on campus 🙂

At my school on Blue and White Day we had a small ceremony at the Philomathian bench on our campus. The Philomathian Society was at ASU long ago and gave this bench to Alpha Delta Pi. We were installed on October 14th, 1950 and the second oldest chapter at ASU. It’s amazing to see how long we’ve been on campus. I feel old but I love seeing the pictures and hearing the stories of how my chapter is doing. I also love being an advisor to this other chapter. It all brings me back to the many initiations I was a part of. Sharing our secrets with our new members to continue the legacy of our sisterhood.

Pi Love!

Sorority Life – Diamond Sisters

This is my first post in a serious about sorority life. When I was in school, I LOVED being in a sorority. I was just looking back through pictures and it made me smile to think about all of the fun adventures. I realized I didn’t take enough pictures; I wish I had more to look back on.

Since I loved it so much in college I decided to stay involved as an alumnae. When I moved to San Jose I became an advisor 2 weeks after moving here! I am the Recruitment and Marketing advisor for our Santa Clara chapter and I love every second of it.

This week it is Big/Little Diamond Sister reveal and chapter retreat. It makes me think back to my experiences. I loved being a big diamond sister and still keep in touch with most of my little diamond sisters, even if it’s just a Facebook message every so often. Here is a picture of a couple of my littles:

Elissa, Cameron, Chelsea, Caitlin and I

This isn’t all my littles but just the only picture I could find. Elissa became part of our “crew” when her big graduated so I took her under my wing you could say. I wish I could find the picture I took at formal my last year where it had all my littles, grand littles, and great grand littles. It’s amazing the bond that can happen by being a big or little diamond sister to someone.

At the beginning, becoming a big diamond sister is kind of awkward. You may not know the person and aren’t sure what you’re supposed to be doing. What if you don’t have anything in common? But in the end that isn’t what a big/little diamond relationship is about. It’s about being there. It’s about taking them out to fun things and meet people. It’s about introducing them to the most amazing sorority ever!

You don’t have to be best friends with your little. That’s not what the relationship is meant for. Sure it’s great if that happens but what is more important is just being there for her. Sending a quick text wishing her luck on an exam or just to have a great day. Helping her get ready for a fun evening or a social event. Providing a shoulder to lean on and someone to laugh with. Someone to help them get through that crazy time called college.

Even now 6 years after graduating I still keep in touch with these ladies; some more than others. The joy of Facebook is that I can see how they are all doing and what sorts of amazing things they are doing with their lives.

At my baby shower in AZ Chelsea came and my great grand little even sent me a card. These women truly impacted my time in the sorority and college; I hope I was able to do the same for them!


My Life – Workaholic

Back when I was working I LOVED my job. I’m still sad sometimes that I’m not doing it anymore but I know I wouldn’t be able to handle full time mom and full time work….that’s because I’m a workaholic. When I was working before I was working 60 hour weeks including most every night and most weekends. Even if I had Ryley in day care during the day, what would I do at night? I loved my job so much I couldn’t stop working. And Matt is the same way; we couldn’t have two workaholic parents. So Matt and I made the decision that one of us would stay home, and, well since he made far more money than I, it’s me that gets to stay home.

Given my workaholic tendencies though I knew I’d need other things to keep me busy and provide adult stimulation. So I continued with my sorority stuff I was already doing, Recruitment and Marketing Advisor as well as Alumnae Association President, and I joined a mom’s group. The mom’s group is kind of set up like the sorority. There is an over arching exec board which is then broken down into the year the child was born and then broken down into areas of the city. I joined 3 groups for the 2014 year – Los Gatos, Willow Glen and South Valley. And like normal I took on leadership roles.

Here is what I did prior to baby:
Recruitment and Marketing Advisor
Alumnae Association President
Alumnae Association Panhellenic Delegate

And what I’m doing post baby:
Recruitment and Marketing Advisor
Alumnae Association President
Alumnae Association Panhellenic Delegate
NMC for Los Gatos and South Valley Play Group
Treasurer for Willow Glen
Director of Special Events for Las Madres Exec
2014 Club VP

So yeah – I’m doing more things than prior to baby but just things that take up a lot less time. And things that aren’t required in order to get paid so if I’m slow or late on something it’s ok 🙂 I love being a busy person and I love giving back to the organizations that have given to me.

I give back to my sorority because it is what got me through college. And it brought me some of my greatest friends and memories.

I’m now giving back to the mom’s group that has helped me during these first few months of being a momma. It’s nice to have a reason to get out of the house each day. The mom’s group is that reason. Play date, mom’s night out, all sorts of fun things that get me out meeting other mommas and get Ryley interaction with other kids.

So although I’m no longer working I’m still just as much a workaholic as ever 🙂